What should you do if you should find yourself in an abusive relationship?
1. The first step is to acknowledge that the abuse is happening to you and to stop playing down any abuse you are experiencing. Foyle Women’s Aid is at your disposal and can help you come to terms with the abuse.
2. The second step is to realise that the abuse is not your fault. No-one deserves to be assaulted, humiliated or abused, least of all by someone with whom they share an intimate relationship. Women often blame themselves because they have consistently been told that the abuse is their fault.
3. The third step is to begin seeking the help and support that is available. You will need both emotional and practical help. You can begin this process by talking to a friend that you trust, calling the 24 hour Women’s Aid helpline or calling/dropping in to the Foyle Women’s Aid office. You may want to begin to consider moving away from your abuser to somewhere safe or taking legal action to protect yourself from your abuser.
How can Foyle Women’s Aid Help?
If you or someone you know is experiencing, or has experienced physical, emotional or sexual abuse in the home, you can call Foyle Women’s Aid on 028 7141 6800, our offices are open Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm.
You do not have to be in an emergency situation to contact Foyle Women’s Aid. We are staffed by paid and voluntary workers, as well as women who have experienced the benefits of Foyle Women’s Aid themselves. The self-help process which allows women to take control of their own lives, underpins the work of Foyle Women’s Aid. They will discuss the practical and legal options available to you, refer you for one-to-one support with a community support worker or, where necessary, refer you into emergency accommodation, or perhaps refer on to another agency that can help.
When we are not available, contact the Domestic & Sexual Abuse Helpline on 0808 802 1414, where you can receive help, support and information 24 hours a day. There is also the PSNI Non-Emergency number – 101, and always in an emergency call 999.